Change is the word we often use when things are shifting. It can be changing jobs, life circumstances, partners, moving, school or changing from one stage of life into another.
What happens when you want to change but can’t? YOU FEEL STUCK by emotions, beliefs, past decisions or physical pain. The point is YOU FEEL STUCK.
This STUCK feeling comes from fear, anxiety, left-over emotions, mental duress, or physical illness. They keep you from stepping forward on your terms.
Satisfaction, happiness, and motivation to change are a must in today’s world. It is entirely possible to be busy, prosperous, happy, and energized.
Beth uses a whole health approach based on energy science that simply works.
One size does not fit all. Each person’s health is unique. Beth takes the time to listen to what you need, and work with you to get to the root of the problem.
Take charge of your life. Embrace how your body works and learn to work with it. Don’t “Just go through the motions.”
Simply put, pain gets your attention so that something can change.
The challenge is to figure out what is causing your pain…and alleviate it.
There are many types of pain.
Let’s explore the main three:
Physical pain happens to any part of the body.
It can occur once, be ongoing or be a repetitive injury. Often it limits what we think we can do.
“I hurt my neck on a rollercoaster ride and since then I can’t look to the right.
“My wrist hurts because I use the computer all the
“I sit all day at my job and my back never stops hurting.”
Sometimes decisions get stuck, like popcorn in your teeth. Decisions made before, may not be true today. As children others make our decisions. As adults we change our decisions based on current needs.
“Sometimes my Husband(Wife) tells me to do something and
suddenly I’m 12 years old and can’t do anything right.” It’s
embarrassing and I hate it!
“When my work is critiqued , I feel criticized, get defensive and feel like yelling. It doesn’t feel good.”
“I get sooo stressed at school, I lose all my energy and feel helpless. What’s the matter with me?”
When we feel weak in ourselves, or at another’s mercy, it feels like you can’t keep the world out. You feel overwhelmed and as if you’re just going through the motions.
“At School, I feel hurt all the time. There’s no reason for it. Everything is negative. It’s like an open sore.”
“When my boss looks at me a certain way, I feel anxious, scared, defensive. I can’t seem to do anything. It’s like I’m paralyzed inside.”
“When my spouse (or significant other) comes home stressed, I end up being the unworthy one.”
“I use to do a lot and be creative outside of work. Now I feel like I have horse blinders on all the time. I can’t seem to get my energies back.”
There are distinct stages in a life. Each stage is different in our energy use, in how we think and feel, and in what we do physically.
For starters, you can’t use what you don’t know. Life stages change and so do the natural rules. By knowing what happens and the expectations for that time of life, you are in control and not subject to other people or circumstances.
If you’re young you never think you can be old. If you’re older you want to be young. What about being the age that YOU are and doing the things that naturally belong with that age. It offers satisfaction, fulfillment and the feeling of a full life.
So that you can better understand these stages, here is a little description of the stages. This is not stereotypes. It is the natural progression that each feminine life has to work with. Obviously within each stage there is great opportunity for variation.
The Female: a time of exploration and learning
(birth -12 yoa)
Remember when you were a little girl and would gather leaves or seashells and pretend you were a mermaid. Or you dressed up and for a moment were a movie star or astronaut. This creative and envisioning life is the female.
The Female life is an experimenting and exploring life, and it’s where you learn what you like and what you can do. Even as we age, the female life explores, discovers and seeks new information. She likes to figure things out, learn by playing and pretending, have fun, laugh and feel free to make mistakes.
The Woman: a decision maker and “a can-do Gal”
(13 – 45 yoa)
Ever get to your job or home and before you get your coat off there’s things to be done and problems to solve. The woman life solves things with ease and know how. What she doesn’t know, she finds out.
It’s the woman life that handles job interviews. She comes across as:
This is what I can do. This is what you need. It’s a good match. I can
do the job.
She’s also the Mom that packs lunch, does laundry, cleans the house, the taxi and sees to day to day practicalities.
The Woman Life is an organizing, multi-tasking and does what needs to be done life. She’s aware of what’s going on around her, practical, capable, and strong. She’s an efficiency expert.
The Lady: She holds your bigger picture and works with what’s most important
(45yoa – end of life)
These are the elders of your family or church, your Grandmother, who speak common sense and know the ways things can succeed. They get to the point, listen to others and offer solutions outside of themselves. Their dignity, kindness and respect are notable. Just by being present they help.
The Lady life is sure, settled and steady. This is a time of fulfilling purpose. Often it is a time to give back, help the youth or those who need a chance. It can be deeply spiritual.
These are three of the five lives that we build and grow. They are the perspectives we have to work with. Each requires a different set of skills, understandings and ways. While the Female and Woman are easy to see, the Lady life is unique to each life and must be configured based on the person and their purpose.
The other two lives are spiritually inclined and what they can do depends on the female, woman, and lady lives.